Crossroads

Before I get into all of that, I want to give a big shout-out to my cousin, JJ, and his new wife, Cassandra!! From what I last heard they were wanting to be married in June, but they decided to expedite the process, and now they are Man and Wife. I am very happy for them both! This marks the 2nd of 5 those cousins born in 1987 to be married. One of these days I'm going to make it one of these weddings. The '87 gang is an interesting group. All 5 of us are kinda really different from one another. I think the last time we were all together was either Grandma Mongin's 80th birthday party or Grandpa's funeral, but either way it has been a few years. I suppose that's just how big families are though, right?

As far as I know, there are only 2 grandchildren of Grandma Mongin's in the military. My older cousin Sarah, who has now separated from the service, and myself. That is fine though, though I think the military is not a bad choice, I do believe it was a last option for me. Now that I'm in I have my feet on the ground for once, and that is a good feeling. It's easier to call myself a man now that I am faced with real responsibilities and "summer vacation" no longer applies to me. Bills are paid every month, a budget is established, and the debt seemingly never goes away!! More to come on that last point in a minute.

A lot has happened, and the best time to write is on duty. The last time or two I was on duty though I did not get a chance to write for one reason or another. One of those reasons was because I was applying to tuition assistance. This summer I'll be taking 2 classes: intro to public speaking and intro to computer based systems. Because I can't remember if I wrote it in my last blog, I am only 14 credits away from obtaining my associates degree in general studies from the University of Maryland University College, or UMUC. I will be very proud of myself when I can finally say I reached this milestone, and it has been a certain long time coming. When I have friends all around me in all around the nation going to graduate school, completing their BA, or establishing careers, I sit here in the navy buying my time. The ironic thing is I may be already establishing my career and I don't even know it yet!

Next week is my standard navy PRT. No run or pullups. Straight situps, pushups, and swim. For the swim I can use goggles and swim freestyle too. This leads me to the EOD PST. I have qualifying scores, but they aren't impressive enough to get the EOD locker excited yet. Last week I had my interview with the uppers in the EOD locker. It could have went better. They could have told me to get the fuck out of their office and see them again in 3 months, but they didn't. Instead they said I would be tested every 2 weeks. This is the most encouraging news I could muster. The philosophy is "stickability," and it's certainly being tested right now, but I also know that's just part of the test. How bad do I want this?

Last night I picked up Kristoph and his new wife, Carlie, at the airport. I'm so glad to have him back. We had a nice talk on the way back to the base. Full of stories and updates. It wasn't a problem at all to pick them up, and I'd do anything like that for a friend all over again given the chance.

My chit is currently being routed to co-host the weekly sports radio talk show, "The Penalty Box." I'm drinking buddies with the two guys who do it now, but one of them, John Benningfield, took a job in Yokosuka and will be needing a replacement. I stepped up, and hopefully my command will grant me permission. You could say it is just another nod to my Uncle Gordie as he used to do just this when he was in the army. This should be already known, but I'm a whore when it comes to attention, and nothing gets my name out there faster than the radio for all of Sasebo to hear me.

This marks the one year to go mark this May. It also marks the last month I can submit my Overseas Tour Extension Incentive Program (OTEIP) request. This is an opportunity where I can stay in Japan for another year...and I'm at the crossroads as to whether or not I want to do it or not. The incentive part leaves me with 4 options. I can either a) A salary increase of $80.00 per month, b) Thirty days Rest & Relaxation (R&R), which does not count against the Sailor's 30 days of annually accrued leave, c) Fifteen days R&R with a free round-trip commercial flight from homeport to point of debarkation in the continental U.S. , or c) $2,000 lump sum.

The pros of this is I can stay in Japan and collect more money than if I were in the states. In the end of day isn't it all about the bread and butter... and Benjamins? I will have more time to train for EOD as well. I will have 2 more chances in Japan to pick up 2nd class as well. Also, for those who are thinking about visiting me, I will extend their window to do so. Most importantly to me though, is my Japan story complete?

The cons is there are a lot of people back home impatiently awaiting my return to the states. How do I tell them that I am staying for yet ANOTHER year? Will they believe that I'm making the right choice?

This is why I've begun my survey process. I've been "talking it out." When I write this my list has been short, just a couple co-workers and one other old name...I called and asked Sarah. Why I asked what she thought is beyond me, but for some reason I had to get her opinion on the matter. Maybe because of all the reasons why I can't/don't want to be with her I also admired her ability to listen to me and help me decide on things. Because she is in a position of zero-authority in my life anymore I had to take what she said into minimal consideration (that is a private matter), but a phone call to her obviously led to other topics. She is dating the guy who I come to not like (his name shall go nameless, but he has been mentioned while we were still talking, and it was a less than tasteful decision of hers in my opinion). Either way she seems to be doing fine, but I'll try hard to not put any pieces of her puzzle together. I did too much of that, but she is just so terrible at keeping things from me even if she never says anything about it. Just by who she runs with, her job situation, etc.

Last Saturday we won our first baseball game. Not sure if we're improving that much, or the team we were playing was that bad. Either way winning makes coaching that much easier. Both in handling the kids and amongst the coaches as well. Only 5 games to go, and then I will probably announce my retirement. I need to concentrate more on the swim club, EOD, and college. Maybe not in that order, but those are my 3 projects lined up for me.

I've been trying to learn more Japanese and going on more dates. Since Nicole I have been on a streak of dating more Japanese girls. One girl, Saaya, is a lifeguard, and I have been asking her on a date since December. She FINALLY said yes, and it was a double date with another one of my friends and a friend of hers. When it was all said and done, I realized that I didn't want to ask her on another date as funny as that may seem. We are too different, and that isn't a bad thing, but she is more of the partying type, and I'm more of the belly-up-to-the-bar type. Besides, flirting with her at work is just as nice in my humble mind. I have also been talking to this girl named Kiyoko. She is nice, lives in another town, and I met her through my friend Darryl's girlfriend (whom is Japanese). She doesn't speak much English, so things have to be taken slow. I won't talk too much about her since there is still so much to be discovered on this one! My third date will be this Sunday. A swim parent has a friend, a doctor from Nagasaki, and we will have lunch together on Sunday. Time will tell on that one too! Though I'm not getting too deep in anything, I'm finally starting to spread my wings a little bit. It is an okay, but weird/different feeling.

Water polo match tomorrow. Polo is pretty much the highlight of my month. Not sure on the participation from the staff, but the kids are almost as jazzed up about it as I am. They have taken a few minutes at the end of each practice this past week to work on their skills from a team parent. No way am I going to coach the enemy!! I have ordered the boys suits, and let's pray for a miracle that the polo caps I ordered on the 16th of April finally arrive from England tomorrow. The swim caps will also on their way...the charge was put on my credit card yesterday actually. Now we just need to get the girls suits ordered and get a meet schedule lined up!

This past Friday the dive locker called on me for their help. I went out with them on the boat and what's called "tended the lines." As the divers jumped in the water and swam to the dive site, I was responsible for feeding the oxygen lines to them. Rather cool experience. Plus I was able to network with the dive locker just that much more even without Kristoph being there. In appreciation for my help, they agreed to press me in the hyperbaric chamber free of charge (it's part of my EOD package, and normally they "charge" a case of beer). I hope I get more opportunities like that. It also got me a free beer next time I saw them out in town.

This past Tuesday was my first sick day since working at the Wilderness. Not sure what it was, but I felt just completely awful! I slept for most of the day, and though I felt better, I'm still feeling the side effects of this cold 3 days later.

Overall I'm a little vexed. Not sure what to do with the OTEIP program. grumblegrumble.